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Month: October 2014

lessons from my ovarian mass.

October 12, 2014

“Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.” ~Ekhart Tolle In mid-July, I went to my Gynecologist for a routine check-up and he … More lessons from my ovarian mass.

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Didja follow @nicstrack yet?? Gentle reminder that I’ll be shutting this account down soon, so go follow @nicstrack for all of my juicy and hilarious updates. 😜 GO, GO, GO! 👏🏽
Wellps, here I go again!! Migrating to @nicstrack where I’ll be posting about all things parenting + personal growth as I start accepting coaching clients again! . I’m going to be shutting this account down (because even one IG feels like a lot of effort right now 😂), so please go follow @nicstrack if you want to stay updated on what I’m up to. . I’ll post a few more reminders here over the next week before I officially shut this account down (so go follow @nicstrack). 🤩👌🏽 KTHXBYE!
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repost @letterstomybug . Hi Sweets, On my journey of self-discovery, and particularly after being introduced to Brene Brown’s work with shame, I’ve become painfully aware of how much shame & shaming have been an integral part of my life. (Note: I still feel resentful about the role shame has played in my life and I suspect you’ll feel that resentment as you read this letter.) . shame /SHām/. (noun): a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of “wrong” or “foolish” behavior (I’ve added double quotes because they’re *totally* subjective words, which people often forget). . (verb): (of a person, action, or situation) make (someone) feel ashamed. . What’s the purpose of shame? To make the shamer feel “right” and “better than” and “justified” in their beliefs. . What’s the result of shame? DISCONNECTION. . Here’s what I think is actually happening when a parent shames their child: the parent is choosing not to be accountable for their own experience and is therefore blaming the child for [the parent] feeling hurt/mad/sad/disappointed/whatever. The parent’s refusal to own their own crap is now negatively affecting both the parent *and* the child, and is driving a wedge between them. . It’s a complicated and emotionally charged interaction, and it happens ALL. THE. TIME. And for people who refuse to take accountability for their own feelings, it’s easy to think that shaming & blaming is an acceptable way of life. I fundamentally disagree with the idea that shaming & blaming is ever ok — ANNNND I also still do it more than I’d like to admit (but *am* admitting it because #keepingitreal). . I promise I’m doing my utmost to be aware of my own ways of being and language to shame you AS LITTLE as I can. I say “as little” because it’s become so ingrained in how I communicate that I recognize I will not always succeed in this endeavor. Sometimes I don’t catch myself until after I’ve shamed or blamed someone else. . BUT! I will continue to catch myself more and more and will own up to it with you and others, and I believe that over time I’ll be able to phase shaming & blaming out of my interactions for good. . I love you so much. . xo Mama
I started another account 🤗. #Repost @letterstomybug ・・・ Hey Sweets, I’d heard stories (before becoming a mama) about how I wouldn’t have privacy again for years after you were born and I didn’t fullllly understand what that meant until I spent this first year+ at home with you full-time. . Yesterday I cracked up after saying, “Baby, Mama needs to go poopoo so I’m going to bring you over here to keep an eye on you.” It was the ultimate in hilarious moments for me. Because like, this is the reality of my life right now. And let’s be real, it’s pretty fucking funny. . This isn’t to say I’ve never pooped or showered without you watching me (and vice versa) — it’s just astounding how often I have an audience while in the bathroom now, and how normal it has become. . All of that’s to say, I am amused by this new aspect of my life and I appreciate your willingness to stay where I can see you while I’m pooping. LOVE YEW! . xo Mama
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